Making Friends

When’s the last time you made a friend that you kept for longer than a year?

As we get older, the less and less we add new people into our lives.  When I was younger, it was party party party.  Get to know you and you get to know me.  Let’s connect.  Let’s grab drinks.  Let’s do business.  All of that.

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Now that I’m settled down, comfortable and enjoying my life as a successful adult, the need or desire has diminished.  Maybe it’s the lack of time that I have to put into a new relationship.  The getting to know you.  The let’s get together.  It takes so much time.  Don’t get me wrong.  I love people.  I love meeting new people.  It’s that I prefer to meet them and then see them here and there.  I don’t really have the time in my life for something that isn’t going to be adding a benefit.

May sound harsh, but it’s real.  Look at your life.  Look at who’s in your life.  They say you are the sum of your five closest friends.  In $$$, job, life, status, etc.  Where are you?  Are you were you want to be?  If not, you might have to make some new friends.  Cut the old ones loose.  Yeah, you know, the one’s holding you back.

Then there’s my step-mom.  She’s maintained friend for her entire life.  But they are all awesome and successful.  And guess what?  So is she!  So it proves my point.

Do you know how much time you can waste on a bad friend.  First there’s the helping them out.  That takes energy.  Just dealing with them.  Then there’s the spending time.  UGH, you dread it.  And what about when the ask where you are and why you haven’t seen them lately.

Let’s just say that having a significant other makes it so much easier.

It’s tough though.  Because you’ve done a lot of work on you and you want them to be better.  They just can’t.  They don’t know how.  And so, at the end of the day, you have to ask yourself if you want to stay where you are or get to somewhere different, new and exciting.

The later sounds much better to me.  And that’s why I surround myself with awesome people.  Successful, intelligent, forward thinkers.  I surround myself with people who push me.  That I respect and look up to.  And will I be with them forever?  Who knows.  But where I am now in my life, it’s the perfect match.  And if the day comes that it needs a change.

I’ll make it.

When you go to bed tonight, ask yourself and be honest…Do I serve myself to the best of my ability.  And if you don’t.  Do you want a change?  And are you willing to make that change?

If so, keep coming back here and learn some more.

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